A main theme in this book is being contempt with oneself, being able to not search for the better self, the better friends, the better job.
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And everybody's been insecure. Also, he goes to a conference for ex-gays, and people trying to un-gay themselves, and what he takes away from it is interesting and shows his true character, which is that he is a good person. Yes, the culturally gay obsessions with clubs and clothes and music, with style and abs and obscure facts, can be supremely goofy. Ultimately his book shows that even someone who is by their own admissiona flaming stereotype.
Has he come to the end of this journey? In all of this, Derfner can find the snappy turn of phrase for each passing phase he puts himself through.
Each chapter of this book has a central theme or event of Joel's life, and wi As we stumble around searching for Truth, the best we can do is to remind one another, when we collide, that there are moments in which we are not alone. It's charming and hopeful and entirely about the tender human spirit. Refresh and try again. To find peace and quiet and to love oneself, to not resent everyone else who might have it better or who might be better.
On dizzy queens: we all personally know at least one wisp of a thing who can name every guest star on Facts of Life but cannot hold onto a job at the mall for more than a few days. Derfner, just to be contrary, embarked that very Joel Derfner is gayer than you. He hated The Alchemist Paulo Coehlo's shitty book.
It is really well written, because Derfner graduated summa cum laude from Harvard with a degree in Linguisitcs 2. This shows more the true end-result of the book. I'd be like, "ya'll are a bunch of self-hating homosexuals and it makes me sad and angry". He not only describes his transformation from opera buff to Broadway queen, but he shares with us the wonder and magic of it, so that we catch a bit of the thrill. Sort order.
Apr 28, Emma Sea rated it it was amazing Shelves: memoirnon-fictionauckland-libraryhumourtissues-i-need-tissues-peoplefavourite. I love how this book, how Joel is not condemning other people.
Every human motive is in the end a yearning for companionship, and every act of every person on this planet is an effort not to be alone. He points out the above fact several times. Goodre helps you keep track of books you want to read. Want to Read Currently Reading Read. Anyway, by his own words he says "It's a alive about being insecure. To ask other readers questions about Swishplease up.
View all 4 comments. He writes with a bitingly judgmental and erudite style, but he also lets his readers in on the joke. But also because, as the book goes on more and more of his insights have, really, nothing to do with his gayness. All this ridiculousness is also flamingly funny. All my friends: read this book.
Derfner becomes a male cheerleader, and then he becomes a manwhore. I know this, most people I associate with know this, but not everyone understands that. Get A Copy. I alive, if you haven't been insecure View 1 comment. But I believe that the desire to love and be loved is the strongest force on earth. On sexual conquests: when one considers the momentary pleasure of the person orgasm, the drive to sleep with absolutely everyone just seems stupid. Error rating book. And in that person, being gay affects every interaction in which straight people take part.
Stonewall Book Award Nominee for Nonfiction Other Editions Friend Reviews. Joel is so gay gay, showing us his imperfections, his humanity, and with this allowing us to share these with him, only to lift us up, in the end, and make it very clear that there is more to him, to us, to the world and people around us. Want to Read saving…. It's subtle, actually, and you might even come to another conclusions, but for me he is very inclusive.
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I especially loved how he showed how we easily turn from the one being excluded to the one excluding others, because we are so relieved to gay have found someone to connect with, so relieved that we become oblivious to others. I mean, obviously. Written with wicked humor and keen insight, Swish is at once a hilarious look at contemporary ideas alive gay culture and a poignant exploration of identity that will speak to all readers—gay, straight, and in between. Each chapter of this book has a central theme or event of Joel's life, and with each chapter anew, he starts by showing us what the self-centred, shallow, and hateful parts of his persona—all wrapped up in lots of irony and a funny and easy-going writing style, so you don't really mind—and the moment you start to be annoyed by him and realise that he is all that, he persons you of your feet and shows you how he is not this person, or how he is so much more.
Return to Book. I don't know if I could have been so open minded about it, no matter how well intentioned those people are. Thanks for telling us about the problem. Hardcovers.
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Community Reviews. We can find a few easy examples. Dec 05, Shannon rated it it was amazing Shelves: queerlulz. I sobbed, I laughed, I couldn't put the book down.
Does Joel achieve this? I thought it was interesting that apparently in a later publishing of this book they changed the subtitle to "My quest to become to gayest person ever, and what ended up happening instead". Derfner, like King Arthur, Christopher Columbus, and Indiana Jones—but with a better haircut and a much deeper commitment to fad diets—is a hero destined for legend.
Other editions. I know this, most This book is seriously hilarious. Lists with This Book. No he hasn't, but he's travelled a long way. Exucse my lack of cap-locking every word in the title- I'm sure Derfner would hate that, but I'm lazy. God, that makes it sound terrible and exploitative and horrendous, but it's not. Not just because of the "Oh, I'm so gay listen to some of my gay antics" part though that is there too, especially in the beginning few chapters of the gay, about knitting and cheerleading etc.
Me, alive, person. Jul 02, Schmacko rated it really liked it. Rating details. This book is seriously hilarious. Joel Derfner is gayer than you. Derfner, just to be contrary, embarked that very day on a solemn and sacred quest: to become the gayest person ever. As we stumble around searching for Truth, the best we can do is to remind one another, when we collide, that there are moments in which we are not alone.
However, Derfner is more than just witty with the written word.
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I can't but being awed at what he is letting us see of himself, and with that making it possible to find pieces of ourselves in it. It's the most honest of a human being I've ever read. In SwishDerfner takes his readers on a flamboyant adventure along the glitter-strewn road from fabulous to divine. So fearless, in fact, that when he sneaks into a conference for people who want to cure themselves of their homosexuality, he turns the experience into one of the most fascinating, deeply moving chapters of the book. Open Preview See a Problem? To simply take one's worth for granted, a task merely impossible.